Give yourself permission to be comfortable expressing and celebrating your own culture on your terms.

My Taiwanese mother told me to speak Mandarin in a hushed voice as “Americans” hated the sound of Asian languages on their ears.  My Chinese father further asserted that English was the only language he wanted to hear my siblings and me speak.    

They were sympathetic to the horrible hate crimes against Asians elsewhere but perplexed by how this impacted me.